Kat Spills the Tea: The One that Got Away

 

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I put a question box on IG stories for you to submit any and all questions about me for me to answer on the podcast and y’all did NOT hold back! These questions got deeply personal and I’m diving into all of it with you today. 


1. Are you still in therapy?

  • Hell YES! I see a therapist who specializes in deconstruction every other week. I also see a coach Michelle Peterson who specializes in somatic and bodywork.

  • I will be in therapy for life because I am committed to my growth. We all need an outside perspective on our lives from someone who is unbiased.

  • Every penny you invest into your wholeness, you will get back tenfold.


2. How do you navigate your relationship with your parents while being so public about your sexual journey? Does it bother them?

  • I’m an open book with my family. Nothing on the internet comes as a surprise to them + I try to protect the privacy of my family members + their story.

3. Do you think you would ever completely get off the dating apps?

  • Up until I’m in a serious and exclusive relationship, I will be on the apps! Why? Because online dating can + does work. Just because I haven’t met ‘the one’ through an app (yet), doesn’t mean it’s not possible.


4. How many dates do you go on a month?

  • For the past few months, I have been on a dating spree. I’ve gone on over 30 dates!

  • My intention is to say yes more than I say no.


5. How often do you follow your own advice? NO SHADE just needs some odds.

  • You could slide into my bestie’s DMs and find out that I’m not just saying this… I live what I preach!

6. How many times a week do you masturbate?

  • With questions like these, people are often looking for permission, a framework, or credibility from me. 

  • Honestly: it depends on the week or the season. I just try to listen to my body.


7. Is there a “one that got away” for you?

  • Boy do I have a STORY for you…yes there is one that got away.

  • Isn’t it interesting what happens or doesn’t happen when we don’t think we’re worthy of love?


8. A few months ago you went on an amazing date. What’s the rest of that story?

  • The part I shared on IG: We really hit it off— we talked for hours and both were vocal about how much we didn’t want the date to end.

  • We went out 4 times and ultimately we checked in and he did not have the time to give me what I was looking for. It was really disappointing, but also just because it didn’t end the way I wanted it to doesn’t mean the whole experience sucked. I’m so grateful for the time we had.


9. How seriously are you considering an insta break?

  • I recently shared on IG that I am thinking of taking a break. I am VERY serious about that. I’ve been running TRW for 10 years now with no significant break.

  • I took a month off in June and it did not feel like a break at all. 



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