He Said / She Said: Who Should Pay for the First Date Though? with Shaun Galanos
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Guess who's back!? Shaun Galanos from The Love Drive! He is a love coach who teaches communication and intimacy skills! He is probably one of my top 5 favorite people to follow on Instagram— once you see his reels you’ll know why. The first time he was a guest on the podcast (listen here), we spoke about cheating, ghosting, finances, and sex. This week, we’re diving into more of your questions!
1. What should you do on a first date and how long should it be?
It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you’re able to “vibe check”
A nice way to approach a first date is plan for something short like coffee or a walk and give yourself the chance to expand it if you want. Dinner locks you in.
2. Who pays for the first date?
Is there a right or wrong answer here?
Can you be a feminist + still want the guy to pay? Or is that hypocritical?
3. If he’s not ready to be in a relationship, can you change his mind? The connection we have is so incredible. Why can’t he see it?
His mind may or may not change, but it is not up to you to change it.
Shaun shares a tip for proceeding in a relationship where you both have different expectations.
4. Thoughts on the idea of “right person, wrong time?”
Not everything is as simple as “right” or “wrong” maybe it’s just “not aligned with my goals currently” or “not ready for the relationship I want”
5. Why do men love bomb? It’s such a turnoff.
I talk about my recent experience with “love bombing” and my thought process as I went through it.
6. I’m in an amazing relationship but why am I so hung up that he’s not my type?
Be open to the possibility that you’re wrong about your type!
“Until there’s a problem, let’s not manufacture problems.” - Shaun Galanos
7. How to gauge intentions without making things serious or exclusive too quickly.
Ask in a casual way— it doesn’t have to be super serious.
But also, you don’t need to be the “cool girl” or the “chill guy” all the time.
“It shouldn’t really be that scary to ask someone what they’re looking for.” - Shaun Galanos
Resources:
Listen to Shaun’s podcast The Love Drive here.
Listen to my episode of The Love Drive: Why You’re Still Single with Kat Harris
Listen to TRC ep 166: Cheating, Ghosting, Finances + Sex with Shaun Galanos
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