Are We Weaponizing Scripture to Silence Women? with Tiffany Bluhm
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Friendly warning: We will be talking about delicate topics today so if you have little ears around you, maybe pop in those headphones or give it a listen when you have some alone time!
I have the honor of talking with Tiffany Bluhm this week (her second time on the podcast— listen to our conversation about consent here) and we are doing a deep dive into some real talk this week. We’re discussing what we’ve been taught about our roles as women, both in culture AND in the church. Specifically, Ephesians 5 and how it has been taken out of context and weaponized to silence women.
What happens when women hold power?
“When women are in power, everyone wins— not just women.”
“The patriarchy has no roots in the gospel… not one. But we’ve weaponized both the old and new testament to convince us otherwise.”
Tiffany and I both share our experiences and what we’ve been taught by the church about our roles as women.
The chasm between the God of the bible and the church narratives
Moments when women are empowered in the Bible
Solomon’s wife in the Song of Songs
Queen Esther in the Old Testament
Ruth proposing to Boaz
Proverbs 31
Lydia in the New Testament
Unfortunately, there are also moments of the patriarchy at its peak
Tamar or Hagar in the Old Testament
The sexualization of women
“The most neglected person in America is the black woman.” - Malcolm X
Women are sexualized from an alarmingly young age.
“Only girls’ fashions urge body consciousness at the very youngest ages. . . . Preschoolers worship Disney princesses, characters whose eyes are larger than their waists. No one is trying to convince eleven-year-old boys to wear itty-bitty booty shorts or bare their bellies in the middle of winter. . . . The pressure on young women to reduce their worth to their bodies and to see those bodies as a collection of parts that exist for others’ pleasure” and “to continuously monitor their appearance” - Peggy Orenstein, Girls and Sex
Most girls will be sexually harassed by the time they are in middle school.
Ephesians 5:21-5:33
This scripture passage has been weaponized to oppress women.
“It’s dangerous to take things out of context.”
Women were treated as property in that time— Paul was quoting the cultural expectations for that time.
It’s important to note that it also mentions that men should lay down their lives for her. To love her. That was radical.
When we contextualize it, Ephesians 5 is an invitation for mutual love and support.
“Look what can happen when women and men work together, when you really see each other as equals. Look at the world you can create together… What if we could flourish together?”
Resources
Keep up with Tiffany at TiffanyBluhm.com and on IG at @tiffanybluhm.
Pre-order Tiffany’s book, Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up, here.
Check out Tiffany’s previous books, Never Alone and She Dreams.
Listen to the podcast Tiffany co-hosts with Ashley Abercrombie, Why Tho?
Check out Tiffany’s reel we chat about here.
Check out Tiffany’s first episode of The Refined Collective here.
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