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We are back with part two of the conversation I had with the hosts of the Nights at the Round Table Podcast (actress/comedian, Anjelah Johnson; singer/songwriter/producer, Manwell Reyes; and story-teller/preacher Brandon Smith). If you missed part one all about doubt and faith, go ahead and listen to that here. This week, we’re gonna talk about sex, ba-by. All of these guests are married and so I just had to ask them: Did you wait for marriage to have sex? Was it really worth the wait? Make sure you stay until the very end for this one!

Anjelah’s Waiting

• Anjelah shares that her wedding night was awful (it’s not like the movies, y’all).

• She recognized that she had a lot of work to do in unpacking purity culture and the narratives that she was taught growing up.

• “Even learning and exploring to say ‘okay, maybe we could try toys or a vibrator,’ that was so bad.” -Anjelah

Manwell’s Experience

• Manwell did not wait for marriage to have sex, but he clarifies that he wasn’t having casual sex either.

• “Then I got saved and I was really scared of sex.” -Manwell

Brandon’s Waiting

• Having grown up in a very Christian space, Brandon was taught to never have sex before marriage and it instilled a fear in him.

• He shares his experiences in shutting down any sexual desire or thoughts.

• His wedding night was special for him and his wife (who also waited for marriage).

Poll Responses

• 69% of people on IG would wait again if they had to do it all over

• 75% of people in my personal life would wait again if they had to do it all over

• I also share some stories that some friends and followers sent in about their experiences, so make sure you tune in to the full episode!

Resources

• For all things Manwell’s music, go to ManwellReyes.com.

• For all things Anjelah, go to Anjelah.com.

• Check out Laugh on Beat to keep up with all things NATRT here.

• Check out Nights at the Round Table on iTunes here.

• Listen to my episode on Nights at the Round Table here.

• Check out TRC 145: Deconstruction 101 with Nights at the Round Table here.

• Check out my Patreon video on how it feels to hear these things as someone who is waiting for marriage to have sex: watch here.

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