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Manwell Reyes is no stranger to The Refined Collective. He was on the podcast earlier this year (along with the other hosts of the Nights at the Round Table Podcast) and we talked about deconstruction and waiting for marriage to have sex. I am so happy to have him back for a 3-part series this fall. Our first conversation is all about double standards. We got pretty heated in this episode and I externally processed a lot of stuff in this episode and it feels really vulnerable to share!

What can girls get away with that guys can’t?

• Women can have physical touch with each other in a way that most men can’t.

• Manwell and I talk about our different experiences with nudity in the locker rooms at our respective gyms.

• Manwell shares how straight men have an internalized fear of being seen as gay because of stigmas in society. “In the grand scheme of things, showing each other affection… I don’t think that’s bad or wrong. It’s just the way we were raised: men don’t do that.” - Manwell Reyes

• Girls can be in touch with their emotions without facing judgement. I open up about my own double standard in this area.

• Manwell shares how he feels masculine despite being in touch with his feelings, sewing, baking, cooking, and liking shopping. 

• Finances: not paying for dates and expecting men to be the financial providers.

• “I don’t know if it’s a right or wrong thing, I think it’s just more so right or wrong for who is in the relationship.” - Manwell Reyes

• “Assumption is the beginning of all breakdowns.” - Kat Harris

• “Women are allowed to be master manipulators and it’s not questioned.” - Kat Harris

What can guys get away with that girls can’t?

• Men are allowed to not care about how they dress.

• Men can date someone out of an expected age range with no judgement.

• Men are allowed to age and women aren’t. (Actresses have to look young forever and actors get to age and keep the same roles.)

Obviously there’s way more that man can get away with than women, but we ran out of time!

Next week, Manwell and I will be talking about the Netflix original show “Sex Life” and the idea of… can you have it all? Make sure you’re subscribed so the episode downloads straight to your phone when it’s released!

Resources

• Check out Manwell’s podcast, Nights at the Round Table.

• Listen to the Nights at the Round Table hosts on TRC talking about deconstruction and waiting for marriage to have sex.

• Check out Rockefeller Center on IG at @rockefellercenter and Twitter at @rockcenternyc

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