Friendship Breakups with Andi Andrew

 

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Andi Andrew is the author of She Is Free, Fake or Follower, and her newest book which is coming out October 2021, Friendship–It's Complicated. I am so excited to be talking with her about friendship breakups— something that all of us have been through. There’s tons of guidance and support out there for romantic breakups, but not for friendship breakups (even though they can often feel just as hard!!)

Are friendship breakups harder than romantic breakups?

  • We long for permanence in our lives.

  • We never walk into a friendship with the thought in the back of our minds that we could be ghosted or left.

  • Unmet expectations and needs that we maybe never communicated.

Struggling to hold boundaries with friends

  • What if they ghost you? What if you ghost them? Is the friendship over?

  • When do fight for the friendship? When do you let it go?

  • Has the church encouraged you to adopt a savior complex with your non-Christian friends?

Is reconciliation always the end goal?

  • If you have a friendship breakup, should your goal always be reconciliation?

  • “Always reconcile things with God in your own heart.” - Andi Andrew

  • Sometimes reconciliation means that you just are deciding to be at peace with each other rather than return to the way the friendship was.

  • Is “some friendships are for a season” a cop out? Only you can know your heart— whether you’re just afraid of taking ownership or having hard conversations or if the friendship really is only meant for a season.

What are you meditating on?

  • “The biggest thing we’re confronting here are our belief systems. And our belief systems are shaped by our wounding and what we believe about those wounds. Because when we’re wounded, usually that’s when a lie comes in.” - Andi Andrew

  • “The meditation of our heart is actually where our belief systems come from. So do we meditate on the lies from the wounds or do we meditate on the truth and the healing?” - Andi Andrew



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PodcastKatherine Harristhe refined collective, andi andrew, she is free, friendship, it's complicated, friendship breakups, breakups, ghosting, fading friendship, healthy boundaries, codependency, reconciliation, wounds, healing