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The Refined Man Is…Mentorship

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Juvan Langford is a Refined Man.

From the first moment I saw Juvan, I knew he was a leader.  Every pore of his body exudes leadership; it is just who he is.  He envisions a world where leaders create other leaders, where older men and women invest into the next generation of world changers.  He is committed to living a life of purpose.

This is a man that you want to know, because my friends he is going places.  He has a great Youtube Channel called Thought Life, and has many more projects in line to make this world a better place.

Now…say hello to my friend Juvan!

XO,

Kat

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Mentorship saved my life. My maternal grandmother legally adopted me at age 4 and I’ll never forget the day the adoption papers were officially signed. She sat my sister and I down on the couch and told us, “your father is with God in heaven and your mother has gone to get some help and so you’re both staying with me. Grandma is not going anywhere.” Although I had not fully comprehended the significance of that event, I did trust that Grandma was going to be there, no matter what. Interestingly enough, two decades have passed and that is exactly how I would define a mentor, a no matter what.

Mentorship is by far the most undervalued gift one person can give to another. If I were to paint a portrait to further illustrate this idea, the world would be one big room. On one side of the room there would be a large number of young people standing tall, but empty. On the other side you would see wise and seasoned individuals sitting, but filled with information.

Information is the only thing standing between where someone is right now in his or her life and wherever it is that they desire to be. It’s not that the young people don’t have dreams, goals and visions within them, they certainly do. It’s that the young people are not taking a seat and the wise ones are not taking a stand. It’s fair to say that this is not a problem, it’s the problem.

One of my most memorable mentorship relationships is with a phenomenal man I call, Pops. He was the father of one of my friends who offered me a ride home after football practice in junior high. He was aware of the fact that all was not well with me and offered to take me to hear me out over a bite to eat that evening. That was the most empowering conversation I had ever had with any man. He told me he believed in me, that I was bigger than my circumstances and that he was committed to being there for me, no mater what. Since that day he has not only kept his word but pours into me daily. My relationship with Pops provided me with an innerstanding™ that mentors are not meant to be looked up to for the answers, but looked into for wisdom.

The beauty lies in the fact that we are raised and surrounded by people who are carriers of information. I am certain that without the succession of mentors, who continuously stood for me, I would have entered into a life filled with obstacles. Mentorship is relational currency, an unapologetic exchange of support and resources between two individuals who recognize that the getting in the giving. This is precisely why it is my personal mission is to not only embody mentorship in my personal life, but also create a virtuous cycle of mentors around the globe. Deep and meaningful relationships are a essential, however, I am committed to shedding light on the power of mentorship to the extent that every child grows up with a “no matter what.”

-Juvan

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Photos by me:  Kat Harris

A Refined Man is … BOLD

A Refined Man keeps it simple, bold and his motto is : “Only Gold.”

That means quality over quantity, every time. Classic pieces - like a well tailored sport coat, well made boots - those things last year after year. 

Aaron is all about quality over quantity in every area of his life - a few close friends over a multitude of superficial ones. He’s always willing to invest in things that will last the test of time. 

Yellow pants - those are the things you can mix in with the classics every so often just for kicks. Because a Refined Man doesn’t mind being a little goofy every now and then.  

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Chambray : Jcrew

Jacket : Indochino

Bowtie : Apolis

Pants : Suit (Similar)

Belt : Billykirk

Boots : Jcrew

Watch : Timex

Aviators : Ray-ban

xo,

Em 

This post has been approved by Aaron Scott for The Refined Man. 

The Refined Man : Aaron Scott

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A few weeks ago Kat introduced our new series, The Refined Man… 

"The men we have chosen to feature are clothed with integrity, honor, character, ambition and vitrue. His ability to put a solid outfit together isn’t what makes him who he is. He embraces his outfit as a form of expression, not his essence.”

I could not be more proud to introduce my husband to you, Aaron Scott. Now, I feel a bit biased, and I’m sure I could brag about him all day, but if there is one word he truly embodies is integrity

He does the things he says he is going to do. He cares about quality over quantity. He takes care of me. He respects my decisions and allows me the freedom to pursue my passion and art. He is my biggest cheerleader.  

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I love his style because it’s totally and 100% his own. Sometimes he asks my opinion on what to wear and most of the time disagrees with me and does what he wants to instead. 

A few of Aaron’s favorite things : 

1. His Fjallraven jacket

2. His oversized Wayfarers 

3. His Timex watch

4. His Boat Shoes

5. His Bonobos Chinos 

He also loves color, and stripes, and anything jcrew. (It’s usually a bad idea for us to go together.)

I could not be a luckier woman. I’m excited to share him with you here.

xo

Em

ps. all photos by me from our recent trip to France

Refined at Fashion Week: Day V

Our travails at Fall 2013 New York Fashion Week have come to an end for now, and I can honestly say this has been my most favorite Fashion Week experience.  Maybe it was because I was with my partner in Crime (Em), maybe it was that we got to attend shows of some of our favorite designers (Billy Reid, Trina Turk + JCrew), but I think a big part of it was all the new + old friends we got to meet and play with in the city!

We worked our little tails off, but we also played our little tails off as well.  I really do think NYC is the city that doesn’t sleep, or maybe it’s the city that I never sleep in…

Either way, enjoy our last Refined at Fashion Week post with some of our favorite Behind the Scenes and Street Style that we photographed!

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A little dance party after the Billy Reid Show last Friday night…

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Sweet Heather who let us stay with her in Union Square, and was our official photog after Billy Reid when we had our lil dance par-tay.

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Late night in Union Square after drinks at The Ace Hotel.  Nemo couldn’t keep us out!

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Bristish Blogger Ella Catliff looked poised + polished as usual!

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Did I run after the GQ Men so I could snap their pictures?  I don’t…maybe!?  I mean come on how handsome are they?  And I adore Justin Doss’ white denim in February (and his smile too).  

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Miss Alicia of Cheetah is the New Black

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Shea of Cheyenne Meets Chanel with Mateo her beau.

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Dallas Gal Courtney Kerr.  This is her Grandmother’s Fur Coat; it kinda took my breath away.  See more about her outfit on her blog HERE.

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Sweet friend Shannon Yoachum of Lolo Mag + Style by Lolly.  She’s another Texas lady that I just adore.  Check our more shots I grabbed of her on her blog HERE.

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In the midst of Nemo, Anna of In Honor of Design and I grabbed some photos in Union Square and a yummy coffee at Joe’s.  She might be one of the cutest southern gals I’ve met!

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Finally Miss Lauren Scruggs (a dear friend from Dallas) with Shannon Yoachum.  The Texas ladies were representing at NYFW this season!

Well friends, that’s all for New York Fashion Week this season; it was unbelievable, we loved every second of it, and feel so blessed to have gotten to meet such lovely people, go to fabulous shows, and prance around the city as The Refined Woman!

XOXO,

Kat + Em