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OUTFIT: Best of Em

This is my favorite Em Scott look of 2013.  Everything about this outfit is just h-e-r to a ‘t’.  The classic peplum top, the chunky jewelry, the fun heels, and of course the coffee on the side says Em Scott. 

Em outshines me in the style department by light years.  She just has the it factor to me.  I remember the first time I met her; it was about 5 years ago.  She attended a photography workshop I was working, and we instantly connected because I loved her outfit and asked her where her pants were from (JCrew…duh!).  After I got over my style crush we realized that we had a ton of mutual friends from college, and that we were basically destined to be friends.  

We became fast friends, and little did we know what God would have in store for us years down the road.  Em is not only a brilliantly talented photographer and obviously has killer fashion instincts, but she is a woman that loves God, loves people, and always advocates for authenticity and depth throughout all areas of her life.  I am so thankful to be on this journey with her, and to see what God is doing in and through her life.  If you haven’t checked out her photography, go right now to her website.  She captures people with such ease and intimacy.  

We decided to do a best of 2013 post of sorts where I pick my top 5 looks that Em rocked this year, and she picks my top 5 looks that I rocked this year.  Let me tell you this was no small feat.  Maybe I’m a little biased, but I love all of Em’s looks.  On a weekly basis I’m texting her pictures of my outfits asking her style opinion.  She keeps me honest!  

Here are my the rest of my favorite looks that Em rocked in 2013.  Enjoy!

Walking the streets of Paris never looked so good.  I love that Em and Aaron traveled to France for their 5 year wedding anniversary.  If you’ve spent any time with these two you know they’re foodies.  I’m sure their days revolved around yummy espresso, long brunches, and even longer dinners.  Em just makes Paris look good.  Am I right ladies?

What I love about this look is its timelessness.  Everything about the outfits is classic.  Simple cardigan, chambray, boyfriend jeans, and heels.  There’s nothing overtly bold or special about this outfit, yet together it’s refined (sorry for the plug…heyoooo) and elegant.  This could be a picture from 1970 or a few months ago, and that’s what I love.  You can never go wrong with class.

Em’s American in Paris look.  This is one of those outfits that I would never think of putting together, but it just works.  I love the mixture of the floral scarf with the chunky cable knit sweater ontop of the pleated skirt.  It’s a lot of texture, but because the colors are soft and simple this outfit feels composed yet romantic

For their 5 year wedding anniversary Em + Aaron were photographed by the amazing film photographer Tec Petaja.  Not only are the images impeccable, Em looks flawless.  (Aaron…you look pretty good too!)

Some close runner-ups include:

Em’s Free People Poncho look.  (The day she blogged this look, I ordered it offline, and wear it all the time.  I’m actually wearing it this morning in the airport as I write this post!).

Em’s Baby Shower in Black.  Every prego needs to rep the LBD, and Em nailed it.

We’ve sorta been obsessed with Polka Dots this fall, and I love how Em paired her polka dot dress with her army jacket.

Em’s Denim cut-offs that she probably made with her classic JCrew blazer.  She just makes it look so easy!

Cheers to 2013, and all the adventures, transitions, and dreams that have happened, and to 2014…we’re ready for ya!

XO,

Kat

31 Bits GIVEAWAY | Give the Glam

**Check our Instagram today for details on how to win your Holiday 31 Bits Jewelry, and join the contest at the end of this post for extra entries**

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This week is a big week for my friends over at 31 Bits.  They’re celebrating a website relaunch and the launch of their winter “Give with Glam” line featuring one of my favorite bloggers Julia from Gal with Glam.

I’m not a big jewelry girl.  I like to keep it simple, but there are a few go-to pieces I have that I wear on almost a daily basis.  Those pieces belong to 31 Bits.  Ladies not only do they have amazing product, but the best part…all of these pieces are handmade by women in Uganda, providing them with jobs and education to get out of poverty.

Kallie Dovel, one of the founders of 31 Bits says, “Everything you buy can either have a positive or negative impact on the world. This Holiday season we want people to think about their purchases and give gifts with meaning.” And 31 Bits does just that! The Holiday Collection uses beads rolled out of recycled paper, coated in holiday shades of glitter, to exude dazzling holiday flair.

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Months ago, Em blogged about making her very own Boyfriend jeans.  Let me be honest, I just can’t make my own jeans; it stresses me out.  I envy Em for it, but just didn’t have the gumption for it!  Since then, I have been looking everywhere for boyfriend jeans.  Thankfully I ran into JCrew today to return something, and it was like this wall of jeans was beckoning me.  I floated to the boyfriend jeans, tried them on, cried, bought them.  

Now they’re my best friends.  Once again, JCrew nails it.

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Shop the Look…

Boyfriend Jeans:  JCrew

Sweatshirt:  JCrew

Beanie:  JCrew

Necklace + Bracelet:  31Bits

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OUTFIT : Our White Oxfords

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Monday we launched the second edition of our How to Style Your Staples series featuring the classic White Oxford.  This might be on of my favorite posts that we’ve done thus far.  I just love seeing how creative each lady can be with such a simple piece!

And also…is anyone else in love with Em’s Refined on a Dime boyfriend jeans?  I just cannot handle her cuteness sometimes!!

Here’s some more of Em + her fabulous self!

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photos : simply jessie / hair & makeup : melissa hoffmann

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oxford : thomas mason for jcrew 

jeans : thrifted (see this!

pumps : sam edelman (similar)

wallet : michael kors

glasses : warby parker mallory

Now onto my White Oxford look…

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Photos by:  Aaron Young (who’s the bomb by the way)

White Oxford:  Apolis

Skirt:  Anthropologie

Belt:  Thrift (similar)

The Refined HOW TO STYLE YOUR STAPLES: The White Oxford

How to Style your Staples Edition #2:  The White Oxford

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Dear White Oxford,

I love you.  Very very very much.  I sort of want to wear you every day!  That’s all.

XO,

Kat

Ladies, the white oxford is a wardrobe essential.  Gone are the days when a white oxford is for a man heading off to his 9-5.  Whether you are cleaning the house, heading to the beach, out to drinks with the ladies on a Friday night, a client meeting, or shopping with friends, your white oxford is a piece you can wear anywhere!

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Em I truly think you and Jenna Lyons are soulmates.  The Coral lips + leopard heels adds some spunk to this classic look.  Don’t be afraid to accessorize ladies.  A simple outfit can instantly be taken up 10 notches with a few poppy pieces of jewelry + accents!

So my outfit I love because this flowy high-wasted skirt is just so fun!  When I saw it in the window at Anthropologie I knew I had to have it, and I knew instantly that I would pair it with my favorite White Oxford from Apolis. The look goes wonderfully with my Boho-Prep thing I got going:) (Thanks Aaron Young for the rad photos!)

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Jenn Pinkston of The Effortless Chic is just cute as a button.  She really is living up to her namesake right now as she makes this look seem so effortless!  We shot in LA last week, and I just adore Jen.  She is such a lovely person inside and out!

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Erin of Apartment 34 is a woman I have yet to meet in real life (she’s based out of San Francisco and her and Em have become fast friends).  What I do know about this lady is that she has immaculate taste, and you know I always love a girl who is not afraid to POP THAT COLLAR!  Jeans + Ankle Jeans + Chunky Heels = Perfection. 

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What I love about Casey is her sweet spirit.  Everything she does has soul, depth, and passion.  The woman you experience on her blog is the woman you experience in real life.  She is such a gift to us!  Casey stays classy with her white oxford tucked in, yet keeps her edge of bohemia with her slouchy trousers.  I love this!

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Sara from Glitter and Grace just makes me happy because she is never afraid of a little sparkle (hence the name of her blog!),  She’s one of those gals that is constantly smiling as she talks and is simply a joy to be around.  This sparkly skirt and tied white oxford is just SOOO her.  

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Hilary of Dean Street Society just oozes class.  Her bows just make me happy.  What I love about this look is how polished it is.  This is the perfect outfit for a day of client meetings and running around the town.  It’s so interesting how versatile this simple white oxford can be!

OUTFIT : Chambray + Gray

Wait - is it Grey or Gray? And did you know there’s a whole website devoted to this question?!

Awesome.

Either way, it pairs perfectly with chambray and my ONA bag for some fun in San Francisco. I wore this for a day out in the city with my friend Michelle, who took these awesome pics for me after we ate toast at The Mill, an amazing lunch at Il Cane Rosso, agonized over which pair of Frēda’s to purchase, and took home a loaf of Acme bread for later.

All in all, pretty much the most perfect day in the city. Plus, it was sunny! A rare thing in this city by the bay.

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photos : Michelle Cross 

Chambray popover : Jcrew

Jeans : Levi’s 501

Cardigan : Madewell

Pumps : Jcrew Collection (similiar)

Camera bag : ONA

Sunglasses : Ray Ban

xo

Em

Refined on a Dime : Boyfriend Jeans

"Great, just what the world needs, more women wearing baggy jeans."


- said my husband / when I told him what this post was about.

If I’ve learned anything from The Man Repeller, it’s that if my husband doesn’t approve, it’s probably awesome and I should wear it.

Take boyfriend jeans. They are so loose and baggy it’s like the next best thing to wearing sweatpants in public. I’ll probably be wearing them after they aren’t on trend because they just make me feel happy.

But have you tried to find boyfriend jeans at the department store? I could never find them with enough slouch - especially through the thigh - and I always felt like if they didn’t make my heart sing I sure wasn’t about to spend all that $$$ on them.

What I have found is that the thrift store is the BEST place to get them.

Here are some tips to make even the most daunting thrift store your friend:

1. Head straight for the men’s section (I guess that might be obvious but JUST IN CASE)

2. Look for Levi’s - especially 501 or 505 - those are classic fits that will have just enough straightness in the leg all the way through, plus the denim will be perfect - no elastic or anything weird like that to worry about. Lots of Levi’s will also have the waist and inseam on the back label so you can easily find a small enough waist size to work with.

3. TRY THEM ON. Seems like another obvious point here but I think many people don’t have thrift store success because they don’t want to commit to the dressing room but trust me YOU MUST go all in here. The waist size might say 32 but you want to know where exactly they are going to sit on your hips. Also the length is important. I usually am cutting them to make shorts or rolling them up - but depending on how long they are to begin with you will want to see whether they will require cutting. 

4. Be Careful with the Scissors - I can’t tell you how many times I’ve ruined a good pair of denim attempting to make them cutoffs because I thought I would just wing it with the length. You want to cut them much longer at first and roll them to get a real sense of how short they are going to be. You might also find that they look better rolled up than cut and in that case you’re done!

5. Distressing - If you are lucky you’ll find a pair that some man carpenter wore for years and there will be paint or distressing on your jeans already. If not - you can always add your own by rubbing them with a cheese grater and ripping a bit away as you go. But just be warned it takes a while to get it right and it gets messy. I guess there’s a reason designer jeans cost so much….

And that’s all there is to it. Feel free to spend the whole of the $185 you saved on some fabulous accessories, shoes, etc. and feel ridiculously good about it. 

Your boyfriends, husbands, brothers + fathers can send me thank you presents anytime.

xo

Em

ps. Do you have specific ideas for Refined on a Dime? We’d love to hear your feedback here. I promise we’re nice. 

OUTFIT : Pop of Red

One thing I loved seeing at New York Fashion Week was some incredible vibrant Reds on the runway. So this week to kick off a little runway to reality, Kat + I have two NYC outfits with a pop of red. 

While I would have loved to have a different jacket to share with you, the other reality for this California girl is that I just don’t have that many fun coats. It just doesn’t get cold enough to invest in them, so most of mine are the standard black or navy. After last week though and some of the coats I saw at the spring J Crew presentation I am rethinking things completely

Jeans : Levi’s 501 / Tee : American Apparel / Coat : Thrifted (similar) / Boots : Madewell / Watch : Michael Kors / Bracelet : J Crew (similar … I want this one!) / Lipstick : Chanel Rouge Allure

xo,

Em