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OUTIFT | Two Toned Pleated Skirt


One of my favorite colors to wear is blue.  Whether it’s a classic denim, or a cobalt blue cami, there is something so radiant about this color.  

A few weeks ago one of my friends said that we wear colors that we’re naturally drawn to + that those colors say something about who we are on the inside.  At first I thought this was a little weird, but then he told me what it meant.

He said blue symbolizes truth, trust, loyalty, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, faith, and heaven.

Now that stopped me in my tracks, because it does speak to a lot of who I am and who I strive to be on the inside.  I think we are drawn to things in this world that envelope beauty, authenticity, and truth.

And maybe…just maybe that’s why I’m so drawn to blue.

Am I crazy?  Maybe, but that’s ok:)




Also, full disclosure Em picked out this outfit for me when I was visiting her a few weeks ago!  I love when she plays dress-up with me!









Photos by:  Em

OUTFIT:  This is an old cami, but JCrew has some great ones + this one imparticular is fab! |  Thank you TopShop for a great Pleated Skirt.

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weekly round up | 8.22


Man, has this week flown by! Anybody else with me? I also felt the first sense of a brisk fall breeze while on the patio with friends last night, which was only a reminder of summer’s imminent end. Yet, I think I’m excited for the change of seasons…Cue moody nail polish, sweaters, booties, football season + autumn leaves! Anyway…here’s this week’s roundup of some fun + interesting links :]

Refined Recap : 

Hope you saw this week’s “Beauty Is…” featuring the inspiring and compassionate Dianna.

Check out this shoot with Verily we did with midi-skirts for every woman’s body!

Jenna Lyons’ office feature seriously made my day. We couldn’t love her anymore than we already do.

Would you try the “tie-it-around” trend? I saw numerous girls rockin’ it at the Beyonce + Jay-Z tour!

Totally random, but totally hilarious and on-point honest slogans! I was dying.

Are you addicted to all-white everything? ‘Cuz I am, and this post by Erin didn’t help the situation.

Loving this fun pink fall manicure idea from Free People.

Pearls are a classic, but I really love how they’re making a comeback.

I could seriously consume an açai bowl twice a day and with this recipe that may actually end up happening…

This blueberry, cucumber spritzer sounds refreshing + perfect for a Friday evening.

These jam-filled corn muffins are making me hungry.

I have apartment envy. Katie’s kitchen is extremely adorable.

This little daily dose is a wonderful reminder to power through tough days.




Long story short:  Dianna + I became friends via Instagram.

When we finally met in person I’m pretty sure it involved a lot of jumping up + down, squealing, Beyonce dance moves, and of course laughter.

Not only is Dianna a woman who is an incredibly gifted hair stylist (like y’all she’s the real deal), she loves God, loves people, and has committed her life to being an advocate for women enslaved in human trafficking.  She is using her gifts, talents, and voice to impact the world in a very real and tangible way.

Dianna is magnetic, passionate, and a champion for the people in her life (myself included), and I am incredibly honored to have her as a cohort and friend.  

Dianna you inspire me to want to change the world.  You are leading the way.  You my dear are a torchbearer.  Love you more than you know,



Anyone who is free has taken their freedom for granted at some point. I’m sure you are taking your freedom for granted right now. You have the luxury of reading this blog right on your smart little phone wherever you are (hopefully not while you are driving!), or on your computer in Starbucks while drinking a $5 latte and not a thought crosses your mind about the people who fought for that freedom.

100 years ago, your freedom was fought for you by women who believed that it is our right to vote, work, hold office, have an opinion, and even to wear pants in public. We get to be thankful to those ladies everyday. Whether we leave the house in boyfriend jeans and no makeup, or glamed up and red carpet ready, we can choose how we want to look everyday. The women who fought for us were empowered and they were determined for their daughters, grand daughters and great grand daughters to be empowered as well.

I promise, this isn’t a political rant. I’m just painting a picture for you⋯

In countries like Cambodia, Brazil, Kenya, Uganda, Mexico, and Thailand, women are not afforded the same freedom and opportunities we are here in America. I know this because I have seen first hand in each of these countries what it means to not be free.

Since 2011, I have traveled to developing countries with an organization called THE TRADE to teach the skill of hair dressing to women who otherwise would not have had the opportunity to have an education. It was my choice to begin my career as a hair stylist 15 years ago. I have always had a natural talent for styling hair since using all my mother’s expensive hair products on my Barbies at the tender age of 5. As much as my mom wanted me to attend some big 3 or 4 letter university and get my degree in something fancy, she allowed me to believe in the beauty of my dreams. She saw what gave me joy.

My dream was to make women feel beautiful, not just look beautiful. Now, my dream is to see women be empowered through a dignified career and making women in their communities feel beautiful. When a woman feels beautiful, you can see it. It’s more than a good haircut. When you feel beautiful, you exude joy and joy can’t be faked.

The ladies in our programs around the world have been abused, exploited, and trafficked against their will. There was no joy in them at all. We saw the beauty in each one of them that they never had the freedom to see in themselves.

Throughout the course of our training, the beauty that lies within each of our students slowly begins to surface. Their self-worth is being built. Their value is being shaped. They are no longer weak, but strong. Their trials turn into triumph. They are no longer victims, but victors. Their hurt turns to hope. When you have the freedom to hope, to love, and to live, you can be anything you want to be, which is truly beautiful.

Beauty Is…Freedom.


Dianna a.k.a. Lady Dianna

















Photos by:  Me…Kat Harris

Make-up by:  Melina Ruiz

Dianna’s Wardrobe:  I adore Dianna’s blue Forever 21 romper.  Check out my favorite one; it’s from Zappos!  Of course I’m in love with her JCrew grey sweater HERE + shop the post below withs some rad options for floral pants!



OUTFIT | Fresh Floral Pants

Do you ever go to take a photo of your outfit, see the image, and then remove your necklace because all of a sudden it’s too much?

NO? Just me and my own styling insanity. 

Ok then.

Here’s some photos Kat took of me in my current favorite floral/jungle pants. Normally I wear them a bit lower on my hips but this time I decided to experiment with wearing them a bit higher up and tucking my silk cami into the front.

Let’s just not talk about the necklace incident, shall we? Deal. 






While these trousers from Zara I could not find online anymore, I did however find a whole BEVVY of amazing printed pants. 

Find your perfect pair below. 

xo, Em

weekly round up : BEST WEEK EVER

Hey friends!

Em here, it was the BEST WEEK EVER because Kat was visiting us! we had so much fun getting to catch up and dream big for what’s on the horizon for The Refined Woman.

I’m so grateful for Lauren putting together this week’s roundup because Kat and I were busy doing THIS : 

That’s right ya’ll, new photos for The Refined Woman team!


We were so lucky to get to work with Jessica Burke + Melissa Hoffmann to make our dreams come true. We can’t wait to see the magic Jess captured behind that lens of hers!!

Patience, friends. The rest of those photos will come soon enough. 

Now onto our weekly recap with Lauren : 

We’re at that time of year when I get a little giddy with the thought of fall (mostlybuying new sweaters), yet at the same time seeing summer fade away makes my heart sigh. So here are some links from this week that get me excited for fall, but also remind me to cherish these last days of summer!

Kat wrote a lovely article for Darling Magazine about experiencing her sister trip purely in the moment.

AND…it was Em’s birthday Tuesday!!

How chic is Helena’s grey blazer simply paired with a white tee and black skinnies?! (also perfect for transitioning to fall!)

This dewy cheeks look is literally perfect (and SO easy) for the hot + humid days ahead.

Loving Mango’s minimalism in their new fall lookbook. Simplicity = Stunning.

This mini cobbler looks absolutely divine. I think I’ll save both for myself!

Can’t wait to try this lip stain technique come fall ~ C’est très jolie!

Seriously crushing on Julia’s camel sweater coat. Seriously. Get in my closet.

Love this reminder to find the positives in life’s moments.


Lauren, (& Em + Kat)

Happy Birthday Em!

Photo by:  Tec Petaja

Emily you embody grace, confidence, and dignity.

Seeing you transition from wife to mother has been inspiring.  The past few days spent with you I am in awe at how you do it all.  I have watched you selflessly take care of precious Charlie with your whole heart while doing laundry while styling an amazing shoot.  There’s nothing you cannot do when you put your mind to it.

I acknowledge you for creating space in your life to love your family and community deeply.  

I acknowledge you for the excellence that seeps out of every thing you do in your life from your business to the unnoticed details.

You truly are The Refined Woman + I cannot imagine having any other lady on this journey with me!

I adore you Emthegem!



Weekly Round-up | Summer lovin’

Hope all you lovely ladies had a wonderful week. Here’s to cherishing the warm nights of summer that allow for trying new summer-y looks and recipes, and spending time with great company outdoors.

Our oh-so-lovely Kat was featured on Darling Magazine with the perfect way to style an all-white outfit

I’m always looking for new music to add to my summer playlist + Darling has curated the perfect playlist for your next summer dinner party.

Excited to try out a new Rosé this weekend thanks to the Glitter Guide!

Adding Wanderlust & Co.’s delicate jewelry to my wish-list.

This chickpea and roasted pepper salad will certainly transport you to Tuscany!

A white blazer = Instant glam. Lovin’ how the many ways Jacey styles hers! A perfect style staple. 

…And loving how Helena styled her dainty jewels! Some classy jewelry really finishes every outfit. 

Need a sweater that will transition from summer to fall and beyond? Mackenzie gathered some perfect fishermen sweaters.

Would you try the matching sets trend?! I’m on board!

Loving what is inspiring Apartment 34 - especially the beautifully styled entryway + that nail salon! Swooon.

Those colors in Emily’s lovely dress and bedroom are perfection! 

And lastly, two viral videos that made my life just a bit better this week. 

Why I’ll need to have at least one more baby. 

I’m not a cat person, but this makes me almost want one. 

Even if you’ve watched them already, why not once more. 

It is Friday after all. 

Have the best weekend friends!


Em, Lauren + Kat

OUTFIT | White on White


This summer has been go-go-go.  I truly cannot complain about all the amazing trips I’ve been able to go on this summer, and I will tell you one thing I’ve come to really learn is to keep it simple.  (I mean I’m not a huge jazzy dresser in the first place, but especially when I’m in and out of town every few days I need some good go-to classic staples.  

This basic white tee + white denim shorts have been my summer staples.  Whether in NY or LA I can throw this outfit on + feel put together while still being comfortable (and you know Em + I are all about those outfits that look “put together”, but feel like pajamas!  

You can’t go wrong with white in my opinion; it’s one of my favorite colors to wear + today you can my Summer How to on White on White color palettes on Darling Magazine!  Check them out + leave them some Refined Woman love!






Photos by Lindsey Shea


Weekly Round-up

Well hello Friday and hello August! Yes, it’s August, but three cheers for Friday!

Here are some links we found around the web this week with plenty of fun things to try this weekend. Enjoy!


The Refined Woman

Lauren shared about her recent trip to Haiti on Beauty Is

Kat shared about her recent sister trip abroad and fabulous travel style!

We were crushin’ on blush this week.

Would you consider cooking with flowers? Why not?!

14 crop-top inspiration that is both 9-to-5 chic + not so much.

Love Emily’s 8 steps for boosting self-confidence.

I’m all about the girly glam décor- here’s 5 steps to styling the perfect coffee table look.

This fish taco recipe from Victoria is perfect for a delicious yet easy dinner.

Love the 3rd pair of d’Orsay flats that MacKenzie found. Wear now + wear later!

Anyone else ever been in the tedious hunt for the perfect white-tee? Well, Jules made it a whole lot easier! PTL.

A beautiful + insightful article addressing how beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I’m completely on board with the avocado toast trend + Song of Style’s recipe looks divine.

Who doesn’t love a little pom-pom action? Rue’s pom-pom placemat DIY is cheap, easy, + chic!