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OUTFIT: A Girl + Her Hi-Tops

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So, I fell in love.

Like hard.

With my White Converse Hi-Tops.

I want to wear them ALL THE TIME, and guess what? I’m going to.

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A few weeks ago my friend Jen was visiting from NYC, and we went thrift shopping with my roomate Erica in LA.  

FYI…I have Thrift Anxiety.  I’m trying to get better, but it’s so overwhelming.  Thankfully Jen and Erica gave me an inhaler, slapped me across the face, and gave me a major pep talk.

And, I’m so glad they did, because I found some gems!

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This blue dress was calling my name, and I’ve worn it twice now in the last week (oops…is that frowned upon?)

Last Wednesday I wore it all day with my cowboy boots at a shoot for The Giving Keys.

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We all know the last thing I am is a hipster, but my hi-tops kinda make me feel cool.  I want to dance down the streets to 80s music…who’s with me?!

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Blue Dress:  Wasteland (Similar)

Belt:  Buffalo Exchange (Similar)

Shoes:  Nordstroms

Button-up:  Madewell

Happy Monday Friends!

XO,

Kat

OUTFIT : little striped mini

// photos by Rachelle Derouin 

It’s still only slightly spring in San Francisco - that’s what we love about it right? It’s always changing it’s mind. One day it’s 80 and the next 68 and foggy. Whenever I’m headed up there for a shoot I bring about 3 layers of sweaters + jackets and it’s a good day when I don’t need all 3 of them. 

The thing I love about this mini skirt is the multi stripes - the reds, greens + blues all work well with all my various black tops. I realized the other day that’s pretty much all I wear. 

I guess Kat would say that it’s okay to own a bunch of neutrals as long as the cut + texture is good + you accessorize! So get on with your bad self! And then she’d dance and I’d be jealous of her moves

xo,

Em

mini skirt : jcrew / men’s french terry sweatshirt : everlane / denim jacket : UNIQLO / camera satchel : ONA / wayfarer sunglasses : ray ban / penny loafers : GH bass

OUTFIT: Blazers + Ballcaps

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Pssst…here’s a secret…I am a bit of a tomboy.

Wearing hats makes me one happy camper, because I can look cute and get away with not having to mess with my hair (which most days I don’t spend more than 5 minutes on).

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You have seen me wearing 31 Bits  A L O T, but really their jewelry just goes with my style so well.  They’re necklaces are a go to for me!

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Club Monaco…you had me at hello.

This blazer has been a wardrobe staple for over a year now, and any excuse I can find I’ll throw it on…even if it’s with a baseball cap!

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Photos by:  Kate Colosi

Blazer:  Club Monaco

Necklace:  31 Bits

Hat: Target

Chambray Shirt:  TJ Maxx (similar)

Braided Belt:  Thrift (similar)

Jeans:  Madewell

INSPIRATION: You Are More Beautiful…

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Me. Make-up Free after Yoga yesterday via my iPhone.

“You are more beautiful than you think” -Dove Campaign

I consider myself a pretty confident woman, but it’s amazing to me how differently I feel without make-up.

In the Bible God talks about the world before sin entered into it.  He said man and woman lived together naked and without shame.

That statement boggles me.  Naked.  Without shame.  

To me walking out of my house without make-up on I feel naked and exposed.  Not quite as pretty, not quite as confident, just not quite.  

You get to see pictures of me on this blog, but they’re pictures that I choose that I like, and taken by women who are professional photographers that know how to make their subject look good (and I am very thankful for them).

What I long for is to feel completely comfortable in my own skin.

I want to love the wrinkles on my forehead, and the tiny crows feet that are beginning to take shape around my eyes.

I want to embrace that I do not have a small frame, and I probably never will.

I want to hold onto the statement that I am more beautiful than I think.

You see, if I’m being honest…sometimes I want you to think I have it all together, that I roll out of bed perky with no bags under my eyes.

But that’s not attainable for me…and it’s probably not attainable for you either.  

My value, your value does not change when we put that mascara on our eyes or that lipstick on our lips.  I am of value and esteem just because I am a human, and so are you.  

Nothing can change your value.

You are loved.  You are unique.  You are precious.

You are more beautiful than you think.

OUTFIT : Work it

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The season to be married is upon us. Spring is out in full force and while I sometimes long to be looking for a fun floral dress to wear to a wedding I’m not normally one of the guests. I’m behind the camera

Not that I’m complaining. I swear it. It’s always fun because people usually seem surprised that I’m not just in a plain black shirt and pants. (Admittedly some days it does seem tempting.)

I love this combo because it’s the perfect blend of neutrals + polish without being too boring. Okay, so it’s a tiny bit boring. But there’s always a way to work it.

Work it, lemme work it. 

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photos by the wonderful rachelle derouin

blouse : UNIQLO / hi-waisted trousers : jcrew / pumps : banana republic / satchel : dooney + bourke / bracelet : bauble bar

xo,

Em

OUTFIT: Country B O H O

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The key to dressing in Southern California is layering.

This really works for me because I’m always looking for new ways to wear old pieces.

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This outfit is so me; it’s like a southern bohemian jumbalya or something.

Lace:  Check.

Polka Dots:  Check.

31 Bits:  Check

Cowboy Boots:  Check.

My favorite N E U T R A L colors:  DEFINITE Check.

Basically all the essentials.

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So I’m actually wearing a polka short sleeved dress that I have had for almost 10 years (way to go Nordstroms BP section!)

After seeing Em’s post on layering her dresses I’ve been seeing my closet with new eyes.

Putting this lace top (from TJ Maxx) over the dress, and creating shape with the belt makes for one of my new favorite outfits!

And you know I really couldn’t keep my cowboy boots hidden from y’all for too long!  Every Southern Gal needs a REAL pair of Lucchese cowboy boots!

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Also, my new latest obsession:  H O O P earrings.  They make me feel sassy!

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Photos by:  Elizabeth Ray (thanks friend!)

Dress:  Nordstroms way old (similar)

Lace Top:  TJ Maxx (similar)

Belt:  Forever 21 (similar)

Necklace:  31 Bits

Jacket:  Club Monaco (similar)

OUTFIT : Grandma Style

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You know you’re running a blog with the right partner when, independently of one another, you choose basically the same blouse to blog on the same week. I guess given our devotion to J Crew it’s not that surprising, but STILL.

Really the real winner here is this blouse! So versatile you can wear it with jeans or a chiffon skirt and pumps. I’ve actually found myself wearing it with everything. 

This outfit I was inspired by the combo of that classy peter pan collar + carpet bag + bow pumps = all the best elements of a grandmother’s wardrobe. Grandma’s are the original hipsters. 

top : jcrew / pleated chiffon skirt : UNIQLO (new but not online. similar here) / bow heels + bag : vintage 

xo,

Em

OUTFIT: Yep In My White T E E…

errr…my version of the white t:)

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Basically, all it is jeans and a white shirt?  Boring right? (Well…here’s a little secret, I’m not the biggest risk taker in my wardrobe.  Neutral colors are my best friend, and I’m kinda ok with that).

How do you keep such a simple outfit interesting?  Here are my thoughts :

  1. Fabric + Texture + Cut:  Yes; it’s a simple white shirt, BUT the eyelet lace and peter pan collar make this white blouse classy, feminine, with a hint of whimsy.
  2. Accessories:  Since my top and jeans are neutral, I was able to have some fun with my accessories:  leopard + burberry never hurt anyone, and my Kiel James Patrick Anchor bracelet is a spring staple!
  3. Shoes:  In my opinion, as soon as you add heels, any outfit takes a few notches up.  I always feel confident and a bit sassy when I prance around in my heels (maybe because they make me like 6’4)

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Would you believe it if I told you my super cute Mint + Pearl earrings were less than $5 from Forever 21?  Well…b e l i e v e  i t.

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My sweet friend and fellow fashionista + photographer Michelle Kim took all these photos!  She’s uber talented and has a heart of gold!

Top:  JCrew

Jeans:  Madewell

Belt:  JCrew (similar)

Shoes:  Tory Burch + similar (you’ve seen these a lot, and will see them more, I wear them ALL the time, and honestly don’t have tons of shoes!)

Bracelet:  Kiel James Patrick